About ten years ago my wife kicked me out of bed. No, it wasn't what you think (well not mostly), it was because she couldn't stand the snoring. We would go to bed and within minutes I was snoring so loudly that she simply couldn't get to sleep. So, she put me out on the couch in the living room, but even that wasn't far enough away.
After awhile she noticed that the snoring would stop periodically and she was curious to see if maybe I was sleeping in a different position or what so she checked me out and noticed that during the periods when I stopped snoring I also wasn't breathing. I was working very hard, chest pumping, to try and breathe, but I couldn't get any air. Then I would gasp, take a few deep breaths and go back to snoring. She looked into it and decided that I should go into the doctor to ask about sleep apnea.
I looked into it a little bit and decided that she was out of her mind. I didn't feel sleepy during the day, my stomach felt fine and I wasn't undergoing any personality changes. The fact was that I was wrong on all of those counts, but the changes in my personality kept me from seeing it.
So, I ignored it for over four years, with my mental and physical condition gradually deteriorating the whole time. I became extremely irritable, I had trouble remembering things and I was not a pleasant person to be around. In addition to the personality changes, I experienced daytime sleepiness, stomach upset and other digestive problems.
Finally, my wife had had enough. She told me to go in for the sleep study or there were going to be consequences. That got through to me. I'm not exactly sure what the consequences would have been, but I'm pretty sure that they would have been dire. I went in for the sleep study and they checked it out. I had sleep apnea. Whatever. I had satisfied the condition of going in for the initial sleep study, so I didn't need to do anything else or so I thought.
My condition continued to get worse, but I didn't do anything about it for over a year. Finally, I had what alcoholics call a "moment of clarity" and went back in for the second sleep study. During the second sleep study, after hooking me up to what seems like four-hundred fifty seven wires, they put this mask thing over my nose that blew air. It made me very uncomfortable at first, but I did get used to it.
I never thought I'd get to sleep, but I did. I woke up the next morning stiff and sore, but I felt pretty good otherwise. I asked the nurse why I felt so sore and she took me into the control room and showed me the tape of myself sleeping. I didn't move. I lay there like I was dead. As an added bonus, there was no snoring.
Finally, I was ready to know the whole story and figure out what to do next. I sat down with the doctor and asked him several questions.
What is Sleep Apnea?
Sleep apnea is also known as obstructive sleep apnea. This condition (it is not a disease) is caused when the muscles of the throat are not sufficient to keep the airway open. There are many factors that can lead to this condition, but the primary ones are weight gain, excessive alcohol use and age. Older, obese men seem to be more likely to have sleep apnea, but it can occur in anyone at any age or weight. Some abnormalities in the palate, throat or tongue can also cause sleep apnea.
What's The Big Deal? Is This Dangerous?
You bet! There is some research out there now suggesting that sleep apnea can raise your risk for heart attack, stroke, diabetes and congenital heart disease. GET TREATED, you're betting your life.
What Can I Do?
There are several things that can be done to help with sleep apnea. Lose weight, don't drink to excess and if you have an abnormality, surgery could be an option. For most of us with this condition the primary option is the CPAP machine.
Life on CPAP
So, the sleep doctor prescribed a positive air pressure device known as a CPAP. That stands for Continuous Positive Airway Pressure. Basically, it is a device that fits over your head and face and that forces room air into your nose at a pressure sufficient enough to keep your airway open. This allows you to breath normally throughout the night.
When I got my CPAP, it was difficult at first, because you can't sleep on your stomach and sleeping on your side is a challenge. Also, I had horrible nightmares for a couple of weeks that I was being attacked by a face-hugger from the Alien movie series. However, after a time, I got used to it and I was allowed once again to sleep in bed with my wife.
Conclusion
Sleep apnea is according to the most under diagnosed sleep disorder in the country. According to this same web-site and other research, almost 20 million Americans have sleep apnea and most of them don't know it. New research suggests that sleep apnea could be responsible for contributing to:
- Diabetes
- Congestive heart disease
- Strokes
- Heart attacks
So, if you know a family member or friend that snores like a freight train, please have them go in and get tested for this silent killer. I am a new man since being on my CPAP and I now have a chance for a long and healthy life.
My ex husband was having alot of trouble with snoring while sleeping, he finally went in as you did and got the same
diagnosis. He also has the face mask thingy that literally is a
life saver for him. It's hard to imagine that snoring is not
just a huge annoyance for sleeping partner, in your case your wife. It can be deadly and does need to be addressed and checked out. I'm so glad you went and now know how important sleep apnea needs to be checked out when you have these symptoms, the special apparatus to sleep with is a life saver for many! I hope your article is read by many!
Best of wishes to you, and your wife.
francie(: