Have you ever sat in front of a window just staring outside, not really seeing anything? Feeling so heavy that you can't move? When every one of your body parts ache because the weight of your emotions has just become so heavy that you can't motivate your body to function?
Many thoughts and theories surround the causes of depression. It could be caused by a chemical imbalance, or it's hereditary. Maybe it's caused by hormonal imbalances, or brought on by food allergies. These all may be valid reasons and may play a part in how we feel, nevertheless, what about one of the most obvious and common causes?
Most of the people I've talked to that are suffering from severe depression are in this emotional state because of someone else. "Someone else" said something badly about them or to them. "Someone else" did something wrong to them, or didn't have the decency to do something right for them. In many of my discussions with others, women are the ones who are suffering from depression. To narrow it down even more, most are wives of husbands that don't appear to care about them; at least their husband's actions do not show that they love and care for their wives.
Instead of going down the list of all the "wrongs" that can be occurring in a relationship, I'm just going to ask some questions and give you have a chance to think if your current situation might be in need of immediate attention.
- Is your husband critical of you? Can you do nothing right?
- Does your husband ever praise you or the things you do? Does he praise you or the things you do to other people that he talks to?
- Does your husband put all of his wants in front of yours?
- Does your husband decide how to spend all the money and do his "needs" come first?
- How do you spend your free time - together or apart?
- When its family time, does your husband go and do what he wants and leave the children with you?
- Does your husband understand when you're tired and try to help you around the house or with the children , or does he never seem to be aware and never offers to help?
- When your husband is around, are you happy or do you feel badly about yourself?
- Does your husband hit you or is he physically rough with you?
- Do you feel that you can't trust your husband or that you're being manipulated or controlled?
These are some things for you to think about. Depending upon your answers, you may way to re-evaluate your relationship. Counseling may be order, or if it isn't an option because it's been tried before and nothing seems to help your relationship, then other action may need to be taken. Just remember, you're worth a lot. Jesus Christ gave his life on the cross for you. You deserve to be treated with respect. If you are in a relationship where you have lost yourself because of your husband, then it's time to take action.
