10 Reasons People Cut Themselves

i remember when i used to do the same thing. but it seemed like i only did it when i was angry and depressed about life and i felt that was the only way to stay in reality. i never really told nobody about because i know how some people would respond when hearing this. and it's crazy because my mother of all people never took notice to none of the signs but know i can talk to people about it and be ashame to say i did it and and i'm better now

If you know someone who may have done it, would you tell there parents or not?

i cut myself to see if im stil alive sometimes it feels like im just here and everyone is moving,changing and im still in the same place, where i started. i havent told alot of people actually the people that know saw my arms, thighs,calves and stomach.. i hate talking about with people that dont understand how i feel. i dont think anyone can live with the pain i do every day. it takes alot of me not to kill myself, thats all i think about how to kill myself. ive tried alot things like overdose, cutting, hanging myself, holding my breath, and nothing works so i guess it wasnt ment to be. so now ive decided to talk to a therapist. which is very hard i cant deal with people judging me. so i sing or write poetry instead of cutting myself..i dont anyone to feel how i felt.

how do i approach my 13 yr.old son about this without putting anymore pressure on him . I just found out by one of his best friend that confided with his mother.

how do i approach my 13 yr.old son about this without putting anymore pressure on him . I just found out by one of his best friend that confided with his mother.

how do i approach my 13 yr.old son about this without putting anymore pressure on him . I just found out by one of his best friend that confided with his mother.

im 13 and i constantly cut myself with rubber bands and i erase really hard at my skin and give myself these rugburn type of things and when people try to help me it only works me and stresses me more... though when my best guy friend who i really like said he wanted to help me and talked to me on the phone everynight made sure i had no cuts the next day.. though soon he went out with my best friend and i got so upset i tore my whole arm up and took my razor and cut my legs and said i did it skateboarding and i still cant stop myself from cutting.

I have cut myself numerous amount of times, since Freshman year to be precise. For me, I like to come home sore from practice (h20polo) just so I know that I worked that day. I find it wierd, I know, but then I cut. When I cut, I feel like I can see my pain. I get really depressed and then I see the blood that poors out of me and it makes me think "There is my pain."

Then I hear a song by Sheryl Crow stating, "If it makes you happy, then why the hell are you so sad?"

Cutting IS satisfying and helps me, but in the end I still am sad. I come home somedays and just grab something such as a pen cap and hop in the shower and cut away. I scare myself. My best friend cuts too, but for different reason. The control factor. My other best friend, he tries to get us both to stop, sadly, I'm the only one who hasn't. I love them both dearly and I want to quit for them and myself.

why even do it

i have 3 friends who cut themselves and i do to ive cut myself probably around 100 times one of my best friends rachel tried to get me oto stop she got me stop for around a month just cuz she cared but i started again about a week ago i do it cuz its the only thing that reminds me im human cause im so different cause i cut myself and i also do it to take the anger out of me i have been sine 5th grade pretty young to start to

There are 9 people at my school who cut, and 3 of them have stopped, but that still leaves 6. Its really upsetting because my best friend is one of those people. Nobody sees the reason for her to be cutting, but nobody tells her that because they dont want to make her more angry. She always walks over to us and says Nobody cares about me! But shes talking to at least 3 of her best friends at he time. It confuses everyone. Shes done it in front of people, and shes been in the hospital, but she wont stop! It makes everyone else depressed too. :( I try so hard to help her, but nothing works. And when shes not thinking about it, Shes smiling and laughing sincerely! I think shes doing it for attention because she tells everyone about it too. EVERYONE. Anyway Im just really confused so if anyone has any suggestions... anyway thanks

i know what all you guys are goin through,i've been doin it 4 years now i just cant stop.The reason i do it is because i feel as though im in control of something in my life.i've just finshed uni an waiting 4 my results,my parents have really high expectations of and im scared i wont meet up 2 their standards so i've started to cut myslf more often.I've got so many problems right nw.dont knw how to handle them

o.O yE but have you? ok.. ¬.¬

Hi was the above comment 4 me? yeah im still cutn myslf,my results r comn on fri lets c wot happens.im so scared

Hi, I am 25 and I cut myself to forget about all the pain in my life. There has been so much going on in my life that I have no control over so the cutting helps with the pain

Ask yourself: "Why do I feel depressed, and when did I first start to feel this way: can I associate this with any recent change in my life?" (if so, it is probably situational depression: counselling, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is indicated). Or, was it a more gradual thing, with no apparent cause? (nutritional deficiencies, hypothyroidism, environmental toxicity, or reactions to some medications, etc., becomes more likely as the cause).

Depression: I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, then have a shower, a cuppa, and either fish, or scrambled eggs, and possibly bacon for breakfast.

These provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK, but Xylitol is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a LITTLE honey. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night. Overall though, low to moderate levels of protein suit most people best, with considerably more of the complex carbohydrates, preferably from wholefoods, and a smaller amount of fat, or oil.

Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St. John's wort is effective for most people, tolerance doesn't develop, and the few side effects don't occur often, and even then are normally not severe.

It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but usually takes at least 2, and generally 4 - 6 weeks to become effective. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area).

Remember back to a time when life was full of promise, or a day when you felt particularly good, or possibly excited from a good result. Emotional states are associated with memories, and if it isn't major depression, this method can help.

A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows. All except for no. (7.) are safe to use with medication, but not St. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor.

(1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements.

(2.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression.

(3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain).

(4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you.

(5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy.

(6.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build.

(7.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).

If 5HTP is used to boost serotonin levels, (which are low in depressed people) it is best taken with a high carbohydrate, minimal protein meal, like pasta with tomato & basil, and avoid protein for 90 minutes, before, and after, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier.

Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www.real-depression-help.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets. Low levels of calcium, and potassium can also cause depression. Have your blood tested, and correct any deficiencies, preferably through improved nutrition.

An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops).

Try to imagine, as vividly as possible, a time in the not too distant future, when you have overcome this temporary setback, and things are much better.

Most depressive episodes last for around 6 months, which is why treatments should be maintained for at least that long, and preferably 1 - 2 years. Then wean off medication, or herbal remedies, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice, and see how things go, but I would maintain the other treatments, with the possible exception of therapy. Even then, realise that depression recurs in about 50% of cases: know your early warning signs, and be quick to act at the first hint of it returning.

This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it's really best to view the whole of section 2.


If you are already taking antidepressants, and want to use the wort, I suggest that you taper off the antidepressant, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice as to how long to take, before beginning the wort, which is believed to act by increasing the availability of serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine, moderately, rather than selectively giving the serotonin levels of the brain a large boost. Self harm is addressed in section 16, at ezy build.

I HAVE BEEN CUTTING SINCE I WAS IN 6TH GRADE IM IN 8TH NOW. ITS HARD SOMETIMES BECAUSE I LOVE MY FAMILY ND FRIENDS. WHEN I TELL THEM WAT I HAVE DONE THE LOOK IN THERE FACE IS LIKE HARD ON ME ND IT MAKES ME WANT TO DO IT MORE. ONLY MY CLOSE FRIENDS NOE ABOUT IT. I HATE WHEN PPL MAKE FUN OF ME CUZ THEY DNT UNDERSTAND Y.
I CUT 4 MOSTELY 3 REASONS
1. WHEN IM MAD.
2. WHEN IM SAD.
3. OR WHEN I DID SOMETHING WRONG ND I CANT FIX IT.

ITS HARD ON ALOT OF PPL. IM GETTING HELP... BUT ITS HARD 4 ME TO TELL A COMPLETE STRANGER WATS GOING ON IN MY LIFE. SO I WRITE ALOT OF POEMS ND SOMETIMES IT TAKES MY PAIN AWAY....

I DONT WANT ANYONE TO GO THROUGH WAT IM GOING THROUGH....

i cut and i do it because i feel like no one sees me and no one knows wat im feeling. i figures it would help to see that im hurting and theres something wrong b/c i can just come right out and say im hurting and in pain. no one likes to leson to me. my parents put me down and i when i cut it feels like everything is going away but when im done i just feel worse and sad and feel like dieing my ex boyfrined tryed to help but he hurt me physically and metally and i didnt know wat to do. i use to write songs and poems but that didnt help that much. people in school put me down and they dont understand that im in pain and im dieing inside and im hurt but they think its cool and shit and it just makes me feel worse. i dont know how to stop my parents know and my close friends know and more people are finding out but i dont know how to stop it makes me feel alive and free i feel like i can just do it and be left alone. sometimes i wish i do it deep enough to die but something stops me from doing that. i dont want anyone to go through what i go through and i dont want to feel this way anymore. i dont know wat to do i just want to learn to stop. so dont do it plz dont do it.