There are times in our lives that we all experience a depressed mood; however, there are others who become so consumed by depression that they believe that it is better to end their life than to continue to live. You may wonder if there is anything you can do to help such a person, there is.
The key to helping a suicidal friend is being able to recognize whether or not they have suicidal desires. It is important to take all suicidal threats very seriously. There are also many demographic differences that you should be aware of. For example, men are more likely to successfully commit suicide than women. If you're wondering why, it's because men tend to choose more violent and final means of suicide than women. Also, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, and questioning (GLBTQ) persons are more likely to commit suicide than the average person. It is important to keep such facts in mind when dealing with a friend who is contemplating suicide.
It is also important to know how to recognize the intentions of a suicidal friend. Generally, if a friend tells you that they are suicidal, they are crying out for help and they really don't want to harm themselves; however, you must take all threats seriously. There are some key things to look for in a person who has resolved to kill themselves. Generally, they will seem more upbeat and almost happy, they may begin to get rid of many of their possessions, if you are a therapist then they might tell you that you shouldn't feel bad for them or that whatever happens isn't your fault.
So, now that you know what do look for, what can you do? The best thing to do is to get your friend to a hospital immediately. If they are unwilling to go then call 911, suicide is very serious and you cannot take it lightly. Do not, whatever you do, leave them alone. Suicide tends to be a very personal thing and most suicidal persons will not commit suicide in the presence of another person, especially a loved one. Once you've gotten them medical help, that's all you can do. After their stay in the hospital try to talk to them and do whatever you feel may help lighten any lingering depression.
If you yourself are experiencing suicidal thoughts or if you are in a situation that you don't know what to do call: 1-800-SUICIDE or 1-800-273-TALK
