Diets create a psychological state of deprivation
Are you depriving yourself of something you need in hopes of gaining something you want? Are you focused on all the things that you should delete from your life as opposed to the things that you should add? How many people do you know who have successfully maintained a physical diet? Losing weight is a psychological state of adding healthy choices, not depriving your self of a candy bar. In most cases the psychological state of deprivation causes food binges. The more you deprive yourself of something the more appealing it becomes and the more power it has over controlling your thoughts and actions.
To obtain or maintain a relationship with a significant other
Do you believe that if you lose weight you could find a man or the man that you already have will love you more? Don't create an illusion of perfection that even you can't live up to. When the façade of beauty diminishes and so does his love for you; don't be angry because he never loved the real you in the first place.
To try to emulate or copy the image of other women
You envy Brittany Spears, Halle Barry and Jennifer Lopez's body shapes. Your stomach is never flat enough; your breasts are never firm enough because you constantly compare yourself to other people. When are you going to radiate and express the beautiful, unique woman that you were born to be? No one can be a better you than you.
To be competitive with other women
Your coworkers are all on diets. Although you are already a nice size, you decide to diet because you don't want other women to be smaller than you are. Do you really need to diet or are you competing with other women? If your coworkers, sisters, friends etc... were not on a diet-would you still be dieting?
To make other people like you
Friends, coworkers, neighbors and associates who don't like you now, won't like you if you are 10 pounds smaller. They will find a new reason to dislike you. Perhaps many will be jealous of your weight loss-and like you even less. True friendship is unconditional.
To establish a psychological state of self-love.
If you can't love yourself at this moment, the size that you are- losing 30 pounds will not cause you to truly love and respect the essence of who you are. Your self-esteem will fluctuate with the needle on your weight scale.
As a personal goal of achievement
If you died tonight would it matter if you lost weight? What would you do with your life today if you had the body that you wanted now? What would you accomplish? What would you change? Many women are looking for physical methods to alleviate a psychological problem. If you lose 50 pounds tonight your casket will be 50 pounds lighter, it you touch 50 lives you become an even bigger person from the inside out.
