Though all men like to think they’re masters at sex, let’s be honest, most women aren’t having an orgasm. Now, this doesn’t mean we need to throw the blame onto the men, in fact, many women are unable to orgasm on their own. Achieving the female orgasm isn’t as easy as people think it is. But this doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
Now, if you’re someone who for sure knows that they’re able to make a woman orgasm, then maybe this isn’t the article for you. But, here’s the thing, you actually don’t know if you’re able to make a woman orgasm or not. Since most men think they’re making women orgasm, this just proves that most women are faking it or don’t know what an orgasm actually feels like. So, it’s time you found out what really makes a woman cum. That way, you have an idea of where you need to focus and what you need to do.
Know the Female Body
Here’s the thing, if you want to make a woman cum, you’re going to need to know more than just knowing where her vagina is located. The vagina is actually quite complex which means you need to know the parts of the vagina. In addition, you also need to know the other parts of her body which are erogenous zones – areas which can be easily stimulated. These areas are the butt, neck, breasts, inner thigh, etc. By knowing these zones, you can play around and see which parts of her body respond the best.
It’s About the Clit
The clitoris is one of the most important parts of the vagina and definitely a part you need to know. Most women, around 75% of them, have orgasms through clitoral stimulation. Now, the clitoris isn’t just a button you press which will give the woman an automatic orgasm. But it’s a part of the vagina that you need to focus on. When playing with the clitoris, you need to make sure it’s lubricated – don’t be afraid to use your fingers, lips, and tongue.
Find the G-spot
You’ve heard of the G-spot but you have to encounter it. Firstly, the G-spot is a small, sponge-like area that’s inside the vagina, on the front wall. Now, naturally, the clit is an area you shouldn’t forget, but you can also make a woman cum through the G-spot. When you touch the G-spot, it’ll stimulate the area. You can use your penis during sex, or you can also use your fingers by making a “come hither” motion. It’ll take some time to get the hang of, but it’s crucial that you practice it.
You probably didn’t know it, but women don’t have to orgasm solely through the G-spot or clitoris, though it’s a popular area. But, instead, why don’t you try stimulating her nipples instead. By stimulating her nipples, you can get her to achieve a similar orgasm as she would have through the clitoris. Use can twist them gently, nibble on them, suck them – you’ll need to see what turns her on. Once you have the hang of it, try simultaneously stimulating her clitoris or G-Spot and nipples.
The Urethral Orgasm
Now, you probably knew the first two types of stimulation, but you probably didn’t know about the urethral orgasm, also known as U-spot or P-spot (I know it’s not the best sounding name, but that’s not important). This is a small area of sensitive tissue that’s located around the urethral opening – this is why you need to know the anatomy of the vagina. Now, you want to caress the area, gently, of course, with your finger the same way you would caress the clitoris.
Though you may not have known this, but there’s a reason why some women like anal sex more than others. Mostly likely, it’s because they’re able to achieve an orgasm through anal sex. See, in the anus, there are two sphincters which are located at the base of the anus. When orgasming, these two sphincters expand and contract. One thing you need to know though, it’s important that you make sure you have enough lube as the anus doesn’t naturally create its own lubricant. You can also use an anal or sex toy to increase the pleasure as well. Just remember to bring the lube!
Keep the communication open
Regardless of how you are planning on making her cum, what’s essential is that you two can openly communicate with each other. If not, you’re not going to be able to make her cum. In order for you to make her cum, you need to know what stimulates her. Naturally, you want to feel good that you made her cum, but nothing is worse than finding out she’s been faking. So, let’s just by-pass all of this and get right down to the books. When touching her, ask her how it feels. After or before sex, talk with her and ask her what she likes. Let her know that you want her to talk to and tell you how it feels, what she likes and doesn’t like. That way, you feel accomplished knowing that you made her orgasm and she actually has an orgasm. It’s a win-win for all.
This isn’t going to happen over night. This is something that you’re going to practice over and over again. Plus, every woman is different, so, every time you’re with a new woman, the same moves aren’t going to work on every girl. So, it’s going to take some time until you get the hang of things. But, let’s be honest, she’s not going to mind you practicing on her.
Now that you know what makes a woman cum, it’s time that you got to work. Use some of these methods with your partner. Remember, while trying these methods out, it’s important to talk to her and see how she’s feeling. If not, you’ll have no idea if she’s close to orgasming or not.